10 Steps To Obtain Happiness
Many of us wish to be happy, yet struggle to realize that much of our happiness is very much within our control. While it is true that we don't have control over many of life’s circumstances, we DO have control over how we respond to them.
Our relationship with ourselves and our environment can make all the difference in our happiness. I have personally found that in order to reach a state of happiness I had to be really honest with myself about the choices I'm making and make a conscious decision to correct certain toxic behaviors which were ultimately preventing me from living an authentically happy life. Recognizing and removing certain things from my life, while not always easy, has made all the difference in my overall well-being.
To support you on your journey, I've decided to share my top 10 things I recommend removing from your life if you wish to move into a state of true happiness...
This is a big one! Many of us will continually make excuses for all kinds of things when we are subconsciously in fear of the unknown. It's my belief that if we really want to change something in our lives there is ALWAYS a way if you really want it. So, stop making excuses! It's like suicide to your soul. If you really want it, make the decision to say yes, you'll be surprised at how quickly the way presents once you do.
Trying to appease and please everyone, (especially those people who are not really aligned with your best interests) is just not possible! You owe it to yourself to be the best you can be for YOU. Those who are your people will love you no matter what and stick with you through it all, regardless. Don't try to please someone simply to win over their love and affection, it's a waste of your energy.
Negative Self Talk
Speak to yourself as if you are the most incredible, valuable person on this earth because you truly are! The conversions you have with yourself are the most important ones you will ever have with anyone. Speak to yourself and treat yourself as you wish others to treat you, with love, admiration, and respect. The golden rule really applies to yourself here!
Do away with anything lower vibrational. Yup, that's right... say goodbye to the drama, the negative TV shows, the angry rants on Facebook (sorry, but not sorry), you get the idea! If it's negatively engaging, good luck trying to be in a happy state! This kind of stuff will zap all your precious energy and it's not worth it! I see people in "spiritual" communities speak about love and light who will go on 10 minutes later posting an angry rant about their irritations on politics, a person who pissed them off, the weather... It's misaligned, like throwing water on a flame. If you want to be in a high vibration, choose love and kindness in all of your interactions as best you can, or change your environment. Otherwise, it's not going to get you anywhere.
Dead-end Toxic Relationships
If a relationship is not adding to your health, happiness, and well-being and is causing you undue stress and continual anxiety, it may be time to let it go. I know this is never an easy one because relationships can be complicated, (especially one's where there are attachments) and toxic relationships can be especially difficult to release. But you need to take an honest look at yourself and ask the question... is this relationship contributing to my overall well-being and happiness? Can I grow and evolve in such a relationship? Is it a balanced and harmonious relationship where I am supported or is it one-sided? Only you can answer these questions. But I promise you this... whatever you leave behind, (especially toxic relationships) creates space for something much better once you make the decision to remove such things from your life. Everyone has a purpose and there is always learning. If a relationship has served its purpose and has become toxic, it may be time to gain the learnings and move on.
Ungratefulness and Complaining
What we focus on becomes our reality and our emotional state. If we continually focus on all the things we are unhappy with and refuse to be grateful for what we already have, we put ourselves into a negative state of being. Complaining is a difficult one to control at times because it makes us feel justified in all the difficulties which have been presented in our lives. Everyone needs to vent once in a while, we're human! But my recommendation is to get it out and move on as quickly as you can. Try to come back to the positive. This will really shift your mindset once you do.
Jealousy and Comparing to Others
I like to think of this one as an actual clue of what you truly want and desire for yourself. Truth is, jealousy is envy. It's something you ultimately wish for yourself by experiencing it through what you see in another. So just call it as it is. Recognize that this is what you want and instead of staying jealous, take steps to actually do something about it so you can attract whatever it is you feel envious of that you see in another.
Get rid of the idea that there is a 100% right way and that you are ever going to reach perfection. There is a right way for you and that may be different for someone else. Having high standards for yourself is totally fine, but not being satisfied because nothing you do is ever good enough is futile! Learn to give yourself a pat on the back for all that you do and currently are doing. Realize that on some days your best will be better than others and everyone makes mistakes... even you! Have forgiveness and acceptance for yourself. You deserve it!
Fear of Failure
Some people will never actually start anything because they are so afraid of failing. What a shame, since it's inevitable that we will have failures in life, no matter what! We will also have many wins too of course! How many times does a baby fall when learning to walk? Can you imagine if they didn't get back up again and keep trying because they were afraid to fall again? The point being is to keep on keeping on... regardless! Eventually, you will get there. In the meantime, I'm sure you'll have a fantastic journey filled with all kinds of adventurous experiences while you do!
The Need To Get Everything Instantly
While some things can and do happen instantly, most everything has its own process, so be patient with yours. Allow for things to unfold in their proper timing and you will be able to relax and be present in the moment. True happiness is only possible when we are able to release control of the external circumstances and lean into the moment as it is, surrendering to something much larger than ourselves. When we are in this space, we are free to make choices that align with the highest good for everyone...
This is where we are finally able to find our true happiness!
Co-founder, creator, and leading expert in freeing others to awakn™ their unique gifts and step into their authentic self, Jenine's propriety method, based on healing the wounded child, guides you to reconnect with your child essence™, the Sacred You™, where all solutions reside.
An award-winning, international, best-selling author, skillful subconscious facilitator, and inner-child specialist, she continually embodies and demonstrates a simple truth...that anything is possible if you believe...even unicorns!